Wednesday, December 14, 2016

Core Beliefs

Challenging Our Core Beliefs
  1. Remember that our beliefs are not the same as reality, yet most people act as if they are.  We see our beliefs as the way things are rather than as our perceptions or judgments about the way they are.
  2. Our beliefs are powerful and often unconscious drivers of our behavior.  There is a good body of research that indicates the power of our beliefs.  What matters most is not what is happening but what the person believes is happening..
  3. The mind is "right" about whatever it happens to believe.  We perceive selectively what confirms our point of view, and we even go so far as to set up situations to prove our point of view.  If we believe that we are deserving of success, we find evidence to prove it.  If we believe that most people care only about themselves, we will prove that too.  If we believe that life is beautiful, then that is what will come back in the form of our experience.            
Shifting Our Core Beliefs
Think about an event to which you respond negatively.  Explore the options you typically take as well as their consequences.  What beliefs might cause you to behave this way?  Identify the distortions of logic within this belief.  How might you change this belief to one that is more rational and empowering towards achieving the results you desire?  Explore how you would feel and behave if you acted from this new belief.  Imagine yourself in the future, facing the old triggering event.  How would you act?  How would you feel?  What would be the consequences of acting and feeling this way?  Integrate the new belief into your daily behavior by writing it down, taking action on it for the next several days, collecting evidence that verifies it, and evaluating the results you are getting.
Until next time...

Sheryl Tuchman, SPHR, SHRM-SCP

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