Tools to Regulate Your Emotions
The ability to keep
your emotions under control requires more than a willing heart. Understanding a
situation through the eyes of another and strengthening self-management and
self-awareness skills are tools that can be used in your quest to regulate your
emotions.
Seeing the Other Side
If you ever want to
understand the type of person you are and how you behave, ask other people. It
is easy to justify the things you do, so much so that it seems like everything
you do is perfect. If you take an honest look at yourself, you would probably
say not only is this perfection untrue for you, but it is unattainable for all.
Talk to your boss,
co-workers or friends about how they view you. If someone says, “When
everything is good, you are a nice person, but if something doesn’t go your
way, you have an explosive temper,” don’t get upset and don’t automatically say
that it is untrue. Gaining this insight is a valuable tool for you to help
regulate your emotions. Your emotions and how you express them is your
responsibility. If you don’t like it, fix it.
Self-Management and Self-Awareness
Self-management can
sometimes be a hard quality to tame when self-awareness produces a very
arrogant and self-centered result. The strength to self-management and
self-awareness lies in the balance between the two. Understanding who you are,
the role you play, and the authority you possess are all very important, but
when these things overshadow your ability to be consistent and accountable,
this could cause a poor outcome. By the same token, if one lacks understanding
of whom they are and their importance, this could also hinder their ability to
be consistent and accountable. People who are aware of their methods of dealing
with conflict and understand the bearing of their way of doing things aren’t as
likely to make matters worse than those who are not aware of themselves.
Until next time...
Sheryl Tuchman, SPHR, SHRM-SCP
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